Enslave Your Man

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Instructions on how to enslave a husband or boyfriend.

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You are reading this article because your womanly 
instincts tell you that your life would be enhanced by 
obtaining power over a man. But how do you get one who 
will cater to your every whim? 

How do you find a man who will abase and humiliate 
himself for your pleasure? You want a man who will 
remain naked at all times and lap your cunt on command. 
You want a man who will furnish his huge, hard cock for 
your pleasure rather than his. You want a man who will 
beg you to take him over your knees while you spank his 
ass to redness.

So you want a slave, but how do you get one? Well, you 
could dump the man you have and advertise in the 
alternative newspapers and on the internet. But what 
would you get? A wimp, a slob, a diseased pervert? A 
homicidal maniac? Who knows what's out there.

Be sensible! You've already got a man who appeals to 
you. You wouldn't be having sex with your husband or 
lover if you didn't find him appealing. You already 
know he hasn't any STDs to infect you. You know his 
cock is adequate and his body shape acceptable. There's 
your answer! 

Enslave your lover. Convince him that he wants to 
grovel before you naked and beg to suck your clit and 
lick your twat. Convince him he wants to stand before 
you and whack off before swallowing his own jizz. 
Convince him he wants to serve you and your friends as 
you command.

"Ah," you say. "But how do I do this?" Well, that's 
what you'll learn by reading on. Remember that you have 
three things going for you. Like all men, he wants to 
please you to keep the sex coming. Like all men, he 
subconsciously is fascinated by the concept of a 
dominant, sex-crazed woman. Finally, like all men, if 
he can be made to feel guilty he'll do anything to get 
off the hook.

So here's the plan. There's got to be a special day in 
your lives coming up. Your birthday or anniversary, 
perhaps. It doesn't really have to be special so long 
as you can convince him you think it is. It must be a 
day you can make a convincing case that he should treat 
as special. Then you do your best to direct his mind 
away from remembering it. You want him to forget it, in 
fact. You're looking for guilt, not presents or dinner 
out.

When you've decided on the day, find some subtle way to 
have him spend the bulk of that day doing something for 
his own pleasure. Golf or a hunting trip with the boys 
would be great. The trick is that he must not be able 
to say you suggested it. Perhaps a girlfriend could 
suggest to her lover/husband that he invite your man to 
the diversion. (She may want you to return the favor 
later, especially when she comes to realize how happy 
you are after you have enslaved your man.) This other 
guy, of course, must be an innocent dupe.

So the day arrives. Off he goes, all unsuspecting, with 
a quick peck on your cheek. As he goes out the door, 
you holler after him "See you around 3:00", knowing 
full well there's no way he can be back before 5:00. 
The trap is about to be sprung. To be on the safe side, 
by 3:00 you've bathed and put on your costume. 

Now is not the time for your domina outfit, but dress 
with a few surprises. A shirt without bra and a loose 
skirt without panties will be perfect for today's 
activities. If you often are pantless and braless, then 
go for some other scheme. Perhaps a naked twat framed 
by a grater belt, or crotchless panties. If your tits 
are often naked, then go for a bra with nipple holes or 
a shelf-bra. The idea is to startle and awe him when he 
suddenly realizes what you are wearing. 

You should consider modifying your cunt hair. If you 
have an untrimmed bush, shape it. If it's already 
shaped, consider shaving it completely. If you already 
shave it, highlight it with lipstick. But do this only 
if it will give you a feeling of power when you later 
thrust your pussy in his face for adoration. After all, 
this is about you. Your poise during what is to follow 
is key.

Are you getting the picture? When he gets home you are 
going to throw him off balance. First with guilt and 
then with your lascivious demeanor, body and costume. 
Step by step you are going to get him to submit to your 
will. Today will not see him submitting to a butt-
fucking by the husband of your next-door neighbor while 
your friends cheer, but today will be the start down 
that road. 

Step by step you are going to reduce him to complete 
subservience. Do it right and he will worship your cunt 
in any way that you command. Fuck up and you are no 
worse off than you were-- advertisements are a 
fallback. Today is just the first baby steps towards 
his total subjection to cunt-slave, but you should have 
fun. He will too.

When he comes home lay on the guilt. This is no time to 
be the modern women. Play the poor, downtrodden 
helpless unreasonable female of the old-time movies. 
"Where have you been? You said you'd be home at 3:00 
and it's nearly 5:00?" 

Ignore his protestations that he said no such thing. 
Then lay on the forgotten special day. "How could you 
go off with the boys on the anniversary of our first 
date? (or whatever)" If you can shed a few tears as you 
work yourself into a feigned snit, all the better. No 
man can stand a crying woman. He'll soon be apologizing 
and trying to make amends.

Be inconsolable and direct the conversation. Eventually 
he'll feel guilty enough and upset enough at your 
distress that he'll suggest trying to make it up to 
you. That's your opening, but don't pounce-stalk. "How 
can you make it up?" He'll start to make suggestions, 
but none please you. In fact, the more he tries, the 
more unhappy you become because you deem his 
suggestions inadequate to the offense.

Eventually he must come around to saying "What do you 
want me to do?" This is not your chance. It's just the 
next opening-keep stalking. The answer to this question 
is essentially "As though you'd really do what I 
wanted!" This should get him protesting. "But I will do 
what you want!" Keep stalking even though your cunt is 
beginning to drip.

"Sure you will", with a stamp of the foot and a few 
more tears. "I'll ask you to do something you won't 
want to do and you won't do it." Now we're getting 
there! He's bound to say "Really, Honey, I'll do 
anything you want."

"Anything?"

"Sure, Honey, I'll do anything you want."

"I don't believe you," said with a snort and toss of 
the head. 

By now he should be really desperate. 

"But I will, honey, I'll do anything you want. I 
promise."

"Yah, but for how long? Two minutes? That won't make up 
for forgetting?"

"For the rest of the day, honey."

"Oh, you think doing what I want for one day will do 
it, buster! No way!" A few more tears of distress. Hold 
out for the promise of at least a weekend. 

"Okay, honey, for the rest of the weekend I'll do 
anything you want, just please stop crying." 

Through tears, "You really will do anything I want for 
the rest of the weekend?" 

"Sure honey, I will. I promise!" He doesn't know yet 
that his ass will soon be red and his tongue will be 
working on your clit.

Pounce time!! "Then take off your clothes!" He will be 
so startled that he can't help but hesitate. Seize the 
moment. "Just as I thought. You say you'll do anything 
I want, but the first thing I ask for you renege!" This 
should be said in high dudgeon as you turn away from 
him and throw yourself on the couch in obvious anger 
and upset. Loud sobs on your behalf won't hurt.

"But why do you want me to take my clothes off?" 

Turn on him.

"Look, buster, why isn't important. You said you'd do 
whatever I want. What I want you to do right now is 
take your clothes off. Do it or forget the whole thing. 
Either you live up to your promises or you don't." 
Stare determinedly at him. Now is not the time to tell 
him that he is about to become your cock-bearing, clit-
lapping cunt-slave.

If he doesn't crumble, then it's back to advertising in 
the mags. Oh, but he will crumble if you've played it 
right to now. Not only does he want to make you stop 
crying, but he is secretly thrilled at the idea of 
stripping in front of you. And strip he does. First the 
shoes and socks come off. (Dull stuff, but necessary.) 
The shirt comes off next, and as he pulls it over his 
head his chest muscles and nipples appear and send a 
thrill through your cunt.

Next he unbuckles his belt as you stare arrogantly at 
him. Maybe he looks up at you. Stare him down, silently 
daring him to stop stripping. He drops his pants and 
steps out of them. If he's the man we think he is, by 
now his cock is straining against his underwear. 
Finally he slips them off, being careful to pull the 
waist-band out around his now straining, rock-hard 
cock.

Walk around him staring up and down at his body, 
particularly his cock. When he turns to follow you 
command him "Stand still!" Even better, demand that he 
spread his legs and put his hands behind his head with 
his elbows back. 

After you have stared for a few seconds start pawing 
him. Don't go straight to the cock. Start with his 
shoulders, then his chest, then his butt. Brush your 
hands over his nipples. The move in front of him, grab 
his equipment firmly but not painfully, stare him in 
the eye and say, "The only way you're going to make it 
up to me is to be my sex slave for the rest of the 
weekend." I swear you'll feel his steel-hard tool get 
even harder.

Let go, step back and command him "Get on your knees, 
slave!" If he says "Yes, dear" as he complies tell him 
firmly "That's 'yes, mistress.'" Oops, his cock 
hardened some more. Standing as close to him as you can 
get and staring imperiously into his eyes very slowly 
and provocatively remove your shirt. If you've chosen 
right, he will sink another level into thrall.

Command him to remove your skirt. That should do it. 
Your beautiful cunt in a brand new form will be staring 
him in the face. Your cunt juices will be oozing and he 
will know you are hot for sex. Spread your legs and 
firmly grab his head and pull his mouth toward your 
eager cunt as you say with great authority "Suck my 
cunt, slave, and suck good!"

Now is no time to let ineptitude go unpunished. Move 
his head around to get his mouth and tongue in the 
right place. Give him instructions in a firm and 
imperious voice. "More tongue, slave! Flick your tongue 
faster, slave!" Whatever you want, direct him to do it. 
A man cannot resist a wanton woman.

Now remember. This is baby-step day. You don't want to 
push this too far. Don't make him tongue you for hours. 
Have yourself one little orgasm for now. It's the 
future you're playing for here. Eventually he can be 
made to tongue you for hours with a dildo up his ass 
after he's whacked off and eaten his own jizz if that's 
your heart's desire. But he's nowhere near ready for 
that yet. One step at a time, please!

One more step of subjugation before you reward him by 
riding his cock. It's spank-him time.

Pull away from his tongue and say "Good job, slave, but 
I haven't punished you yet for forgetting our special 
day." Sit down in the chair that you have thoughtfully 
kept nearby and demand, "Over my knees!" 

He may balk, but it's unlikely since he has a rock-hard 
cock that wants nothing more than to ream your steaming 
pussy. And he knows that if he misbehaves it's over. 
After all, you've already cum and even if he knows 
you're multi-orgasmic he also knows you might quit on 
him. If he does balk, remind him of his deal and the 
consequences of reneging.

Either way he'll be over your knees in a flash with his 
hard cock pressing between your red-hot thighs. If you 
can, clamp his cock and balls between your delicious 
legs. It won't really hold him down, but it will give 
both of you a thrill. His thrill is only important in 
keeping him in line.

Now don't just start in beating his ass black and blue. 
At this point you're trying to enslave him, not hurt 
him. That comes much later. So keep the erotic tension 
going for him. Fondle his ass. Squirm a little so his 
cock and balls rub against your thighs. Squeeze and 
release the pressure on his balls. Then slowly, 
fondling in between blows, spank him. 

The object is the maximum noise for the minimum pain. 
Today you don't want him blubbering, you want his jizz 
boiling in his balls. All you are doing today is 
humiliating him so that his innate perversity will make 
him an eager sex slave.

Talk to him while you are spanking. Use words and 
phrases that accentuate your superiority and his 
inferiority. "You've been a naughty little slave. Don't 
ever misbehave again." Give him a peek at the future, 
but don't get ahead of yourself "From now on I expect 
you to please me, slave. I'm going to expect lots of 
sex and on my terms. If you misbehave, you'll get more 
spankings. And from now on there will be no wearing of 
clothes in the house."

By now he may be cumming, so don't push it. Stop before 
you have a load of jizz in your lap. You want him eager 
to go, not deflated with a limp cock. At this point you 
can lead him by his hard pecker, but a soft one will be 
problematic.

Stop spanking him before it's too late. "In a few 
minutes you're going to use your cock to please me, 
slave. But I need a drink. Go get me a beer!" Believe 
me he'll scamper to the kitchen and bring you your 
favorite quaff. Make sure to stare at his cock and 
balls with a proprietary attitude as he returns. "Now 
go stand in the corner, naughty boy, while I have a 
drink. But make sure your cock will be ready when I 
want it."

If he faces into the corner, all to the good. If he 
doesn't order him to. Make sure he understands that he 
isn't to touch himself. The purpose here is twofold. 
You are still trying to humiliate and subjugate him. 
But you also want him to cool off a little. If you take 
his cock into your cunt now he'll come in two seconds. 
No fun for you and bad for his training.

When you think he's ready to be useful, command him "On 
your back, slave!" Use the bed if you must, but the 
floor is so much more degrading for him. Stand over him 
and let him look at your regal body with its firm tits 
and dripping cunt. Tell him what's about to happen. 
"I'm going to ride your cock, slave. Don't come until I 
tell you to, and when I do tell you to I want floods of 
jizz!"

Slowly and deliberately impale his cock in your cunt. 
If he tries to thrust, order him to stop. Make sure 
you're in command. This is where using your own man for 
a slave will prove useful. You know what rhythm works 
best for him. Avoid it until you want him to come. Use 
some other technique, one that will frustrate him for a 
while. You're teasing him into abject obedience. Have 
fun, but keep thinking. You must defer your ultimate 
pleasures until later. Right now you are capturing a 
slave, not making best use of one.

Order him to serve as your slave. Have him suck your 
nipples, but make him work to obey. Keep them high 
enough he must hold his head uncomfortably off the 
floor to obey. This will help keep his mind off his 
cock a little. Try to have a few quick orgasms, 
reminding him not to come. If you have to, now is a 
time to fake it if you must. (The future-keep your mind 
on the future.) Tell him what to do with his hands-rub 
your tits or ass.

Now at some point he will cum. You can order him not to 
all you want, but this man is not yet a slave. You've 
teased his cock for a good while and his jizz is 
boiling. So you must order him to cum just as he about 
to anyway. (See there are advantages to enslaving your 
own man, because you will know when that point 
arrives.) 

The theory of training puppies, babies and sex-slaves 
is that you reward them for good behavior even when the 
good behavior was not intended. The puppy pees outside 
for no particular reason and you praise it. You are 
doing the same thing here. Eventually you want your 
slave to cum on command, but he hasn't a clue about 
that yet. He will learn. So just as you think he can go 
no longer you shout at him "Flood my cunt with your 
jizz, slave." 

Oh, my, but he will comply. His orgasm will be one of 
the most intense of his life, especially if you cum too 
at a 60-decibel level. And guess what? He'll begin to 
equate this fantastic thrill he's just experienced with 
the belief that he did it because you ordered him to. 
Gotcha! 

Relax. Praise your slave, but remind him that the 
weekend isn't over and you have more for him to do. If 
he's still young he'll be ready again soon. If he isn't 
young you should have ordered him to ingest a viagra 
before you got started. 

Spend the rest of the time being sensuous, sexy, 
demanding, authoritative and horny. Do whatever it 
takes to see that he cums more times during this period 
of slavery than at any time in his life. Now you've 
really got him. He will equate his pleasure with your 
dominance.

Soon he'll lap when you order. He'll whack off on 
command and eat his own jizz even if it's for the 
entertainment of your bridge club. He'll do anything 
your heart or cunt desires even to sucking another 
man's cock and having a rock hard pecker shoved up his 
ass. It's all up to you. Slowly and carefully, eyes on 
the future.

END

Submissive Husband Training

So your husband says he wants to be submissive to you. (or you want him to be submissive to you) Well here is a list of things you may want to do with him, one at a time, as a proof of his submissive. This should all be done in loving, mutual fun way with the realization that arrest or public embarrassment can affect careers and relationships. So have fun, be careful and giggle and kiss a lot.

1)He should be shaved. Yes, that's right, his pubic hair should be shaved off and he should keep himself smooth and stubble free from now on. This is none negotiable and should be understood from the beginning.

2)Right after he shaves for the first time, have him sit on the edge of the bed, lie back and pull up his knees. You're going to stick your finger into his ass. Yes, you're going to finger fuck him. You will need a rubber glove and some lubricant, Vaseline, butter, olive oil, whatever. He is going to be extremely embarrassed to present himself to you in this fashion, his anus is a very private spot, not seen or touched by anyone. That is why you're doing this. Once he is in position and holding his cheeks apart, lubricate your middle finger and his asshole and slowly press your finger to his opening. Slowly start to enter him. Look into his eyes as you penetrate him. Talk to him and have him talk to you as you both experience his submissiveness to you and this act of penetration.. Think about what he is allowing you to do, he's naked, shaved and your finger fucking his ass. Pull on his cock and balls as you slide in. Go in as far as you can, slowly. Look into his eyes when you are in all the way and tell him you are in all the way. Ask him how he likes it.. This may be the first time you are inside his body, enjoy the power exchange.

3)He needs a good cock teasing at least once a day. This doesn't mean he's going to have an orgasm, in fact he is not. But he needs to be hard and brought to the edge of an orgasm at least one time a day, either by you, or for you. "For you", means brining himself close to orgasm and stopping. Yes, this means masturbating for you, on demand. Two things here. One, he must learn to tell you he is about ready to orgasm and ask you to stop and he must learn to masturbate for you, and stop. Orgasm control is a powerful psychological aspect for a submissive man, and you too will learn to enjoy your teasing and control. It is another important power exchange with you controlling the single physical aspect of maleness that is maleness alone, a hard cock and orgasm at will. This also means that unsupervised masturbation must end, and he will only orgasm with your permission. Orgasm denial is part of this teasing

4)Nudity, him naked, you dressed. This should be done at awkward times, odd times, whenever you like, when he least expects it. Obviously if you're going to tease his cock, make him strip. Make him strip even if you are not going to tease him. If he doesn't usually sleep naked, he should now. In fact, anytime he is in your bedroom he should be naked. At some point, make sure you bring him to every room in the house naked. Lead him to each room naked, by his cock, the basement, laundry room and garage, all will now hold memories of your control

5)Nudity outside is more problematic, but should be attempted. Start with outside of your home late at night. Be careful to pick a night when you know your neighbors are away. Again, at night put him in the passenger seat of your car and tell him to strip. Put the seat all the way back. Pick some back roads and drive slowly and carefully, and DON'T drink. If you like, a highway may give a glimpse of his nudity to a trucker. He wouldn't like that, you may. Reach over with one hand and keep him hard reminding him not to cum. Don't stay out long, fifteen minutes should be enough. Pick a secluded place where you can stop to allow him to dress so he doesn't interfere with your driving.

A nude beach could also be fun. He will be naked of course and you should be in your swim suit to emphasize his submissiveness. Remember he is shaved, so anyone who sees the two of you walking together knows who's in charge. How embarrassing would a hard on make this? The object here is to be seen by as many as possible, so walk, don't sit in the sun. Well you can sit on the beach and enjoy the sun, but not until everyone has seen him naked.

6)Embarrassment is also part of the fun obviously. Be careful not to embarrass him or yourself in font of friends or co-workers. This must be done carefully and for the fun aspect of your dominance. Ordering wine and his dinner at a restaurant is a simple start, and one he will enjoy. While with friends for drinks or dinner, whisper in his ear, "what do you think they would think knowing you're shaved, knowing I own your orgasms". After his yearly physical ask him if the doctor said anything about his shaving.. If he works out in a gym, ask him if other men are shaved and what they look like, are they big, circumcised, big balls, small balls, compare them to him. If you have one girlfriend you can trust, and you probably don't, arrange an "accidental" flash. Remember, it only appears as an accident to your girlfriend, your guy might not like it but he'll cooperate. He is in gym shorts and a tee shirt and that is it. You can grab him and tickle him in front of your friend, accidentally pulling down his shorts exposing him, then after all the hooting and hollering, pull then all the way down and step on them. He will have to step out and run. Remember, he knows this is coming so he may be hard, and of course he is shaved. You can have a quick laugh with your friend and tell her you better see if he is OK. Go to the bedroom, strip him, grab his cock and lead him back to your girlfriend, saying, "well you have already seen him naked, you may as well get a better look." Doing the same thing in front of a couple would be more than twice as embarrassing.

7) Proving his submissiveness can be tested with the above situation, but should also include most if not all of the list to follow.

You should orgasm much more than he does. That goes without question, his submissiveness definitely translates into you cumming more. You need to teach him how to orally please you better, and as often as you like. I know this may seem odd, but a tongue up your ass will feel great, and he wants to do it for you, so tell him that is now a part of your oral pleasure. Don't worry, you don't' have to do it for him.

Back rubs, foot rubs, leg rubs, body massages, anything you think you might like you should try, and then do as much as you like. He loves every minutes of doing anything for you, especially if he is physically close to you.

Help with house work, yard work and generally being a better partner is assumed. He can also learn to cook with your teaching. He is not your slave, but he can be a more than a 50% partner in the house holds chores you don't like doing. Delegate, delegate, delegate. He will not do things if you don't tell him to do them, and show him how you want them done. He can't read your mind, so tell him when he is doing something wrong, but more importantly tell him when he is doing something right, and ask him to do it again.

It's not all about sex but a lot of his submission is. You need to talk to him and ask him what turns him on or off. Ask him what he expects and wants. Tell him what you expect and want. Keep an open mind and don't freak out if he has some silly fetishes. He is sharing everything with you and no one else, so even if it seems pretty odd or nasty, try it, make him do it, whatever.

There is only one thing that all submissive men must learn to do. You should have this conversation with him in a none sexual environment, so the reality of the requirement is finite, unequivocal and a given. Every time his orgasms, he must consume his ejaculate. That's right, you heard me correctly. If he ejaculates in you he must lick you clean. If he ejaculates on you, he must lick you clean. If you masturbate him or he masturbates for you, you must feed him his semen. At some point you should make him shoot into a cup or a glass and he must drink it down. This requirement for all submissive men does two things. It puts a real price on his orgasms, and it shows your acceptance of your dominance, and his acceptance of your dominance, no matter who brought the topic up. This is none negotiable and should be explained to him when he first approaches you with his desire to be submissive to you or your desire to lead the relationship. If he does not accept this simple requirement, he is not submissive. It is the only test and proof that he is sincere in his desire to be submissive, and your only requirement showing you are to assume the leadership role in the relationship.

There is much, much more of course, but you will discover things along the way. These are just a few suggestions but a good starting point for exploring this new aspect of your relationship. The most important thing is to have fun. If he approached you, he has a need. If you approached him, you have a desire to change the course of your relationship. Either way, if it is done in a loving fashion, it will be fun and bring you closer. So enjoy.
 

Train Your Husband to Be Slave

Training your husband to be slave; a common desire among dominant women like yourself. If your husband has a submissive side, it can be achieved in under a week. There are two steps: bringing out his submissive side and then teaching him to serve you. Begin by changing your sex life. The next time you have sex, make him concentrate on pleasuring you. If he fails to make you happy, punish him (light smacks or name-calling). Do no do anything for his pleasure. Tie him up and pleasure yourself. When he speaks to you punish him and tell him to call you Mistress. If your husband is immensely aroused then you will know he is submissive at heart and can easily be trained to become your slave.
When you know he is submissive you can train him to serve you. The easiest way to get control of him, while you are new at this, is by not letting him orgasm. He will become so aroused that he will do anything to please you. Take what you have done in the bedroom into your normal lives. Tell him to call you Mistress. Speak sternly to him and tell him what he must do to make you happy. When he fails then punish him. Continue to prevent him from having an orgasm. Make him pleasure you sexually throughout the day, each and every day. At the end of the week, on say a Sunday, sit down with him, have him kneel at your feet, and explain to your submissive husband that you are tired of games and want to permanently change your relationship. Tell him you will become his Mistress. If he says yes, which they almost always do, you will have a new slave husband.

 

The Dominant Wife and submissive husband

A primary reinforcer is any reward your husband will work to get, and which will increase or maintain a behavior. Of all the rewards that you could offer your husband, sex is far and away the most powerful. Sex, therefore, serves as the core, primary reinforcer. Simply put, under the right circumstances, your husband will do virtually anything to have sex with you. A secondary reinforcer, or a conditioned reinforcer, is any previously neutral stimulus that acquires reinforcing properties through an association with a primary reinforcer over a period of time. Lingerie a secondary reinforcer, albeit one that he has almost certainly already associated with sex. As a practical matter, you cannot use sex to reward your husband for every good deed. Secondary reinforcers are therefore critical to an effective training program.

There are two types of behavioral conditioning: respondent conditioning and operant conditioning. In respondent conditioning, a neutral stimulus, such as words of praise, is paired with a primary reinforcer, such as sex. Through a repetition of the pairing, the neutral stimulus takes on the ability to elicit the response, it becomes a secondary reinforcer. Note that a secondary reinforcer may be paired with still another neutral stimulus to create a tertiary reinforcer but such a reinforcer will tend to be weaker than one paired with a primary reinforcer. It is therefore always better to associate new secondary reinforcers with your primary reinforcer, sex. Note that operant conditioning refers to behaviors that are not under your husband's control. Your husband is naturally aroused by sex. Use the secondary reinforcer to mark the exact instant of behavior for which your husband is going to be rewarded. If, for example, you pair sex with words of praise then the words of praise will come to arouse your husband by themselves. When your husband learns that words of praise are always followed by sex, the words of praise are said to be conditioned.

Operant conditioning is the process in which the frequency of occurrence of a behavior is modified by the consequences of the behavior. It is the process by which you modify a behavior under your husband's control by manipulating and controlling the consequences to him of the behavior. If positively reinforced, the likelihood of the behavior being repeated increases. If punished, the likelihood of the behavior being repeated decreases.

Once your husband has learned a behavior well, you will want to start rewarding intermittently. Not knowing when the reward will come, what the reward will be or how big the reward will be strengthens the behavior. Think of it like rolling a single six-sided die. The number you would get would be variable. Example: You might want to reward a behavior after 2 times, 6 times, 4 times, 1 time, etc. You might want to offer sex one time, words of praise the next time, a wet kiss the next time, a flash of your nipple another time. Note: it is very discouraging to your husband if you simply make it harder and harder to get a reward. Random variability, not rising expectations, is critical.

Your husband's penis is the most sensitive area of his body. It not entirely without exaggeration that we say that a man thinks with his penis. Think of your husband's penis as a magic button you can press at virtually any time and deliver pure pleasure to him. The one obvious exception is that your husband's sex drive will fall off entirely immediately after he has achieved an orgasm. Depending on his age and physical condition, it may take minutes, hours, or days for him to recover his sex drive.

While husbands enjoy intercourse immensely, it is not the most practical way to deliver stimulation and reinforcement. Intercourse, whatever the position, is generally too distracting for you. And if your husband is on top, he, not you, will tend to control it. You should reserve intercourse as a final reward and the end of the training session and for constructing secondary reinforcers.

At the same time, you should be developing secondary reinforcers. As and when you stimulate his penis, deliver additional stimulations. These additional stimulations may be sight, smell, touch, and sound. Some such stimulants will necessarily be more precise than others but all will acquire a positive association with the stimulation of his penis. The sight of your breasts is an example of a visual stimulation. You can add a smell stimulant by wearing a special perfume during your training sessions. He will come to associate the smell of the perfume with sex. Touch is a more precise stimulation. As you stimulate his penis, you can touch him in other, non-sexual ways. For example, you might give him a quick double-pat on his thigh. Similarly, you can add sound stimulation by delivering specific words or phrases along with the stimulation of his penis. For example, "very good" or "what a wonderful husband you are." You can take it further by using a unique, i.e. sexy, tone of voice.

In addition to such training sessions in bed, you should begin to reward his behavior out of bed. For example, if he does the dishes, you should reward him. Your primary reinforcement is sex. So rewarding him for doing the dishes with your primary reinforcer would involve inviting him, then and there, to go to the bedroom with you to make love. Obviously, this is not a very practical course of action.

Instead, this is where you introduce your secondary reinforcers. If, for example, he washes the dishes, you give him a double-tap on his thigh or whisper in his ear, "what a wonderful husband you are" in your special, sexy voice or flash your bare breast. If he has made a big effort to prepare dinner for you, you can go and put on special perfume for dinner.

In the beginning, you should consistently reinforce your husband for the desired behavior. Once you have trained your husband to perform a desired behavior on a regular basis, though, you should switch to a random reinforcement. While true randomness is ideal, it should be adequate to simply vary the reinforcement according to your whim. It is crucial, though, not to otherwise raise the bar. You can teach him to do new things for you but you should not reduce the reinforcement over time. You must maintain at least a random reinforcement of each desired behavior or the behavior will become extinguished.

Interestingly, while doing chores is a behavior that you are encouraging through positive reinforcement, it may also happen that certain aspects of doing the chores will become secondary reinforcers themselves. For example, as you train your husband to wash the dishes, and reinforce that behavior, your husband may come to indirectly associate the experience of washing the dishes with sex. The more consistent and powerful the reinforcement, the more likely and strongly will be that association. Your husband may actually become aroused by washing the dishes. Thus, over time, washing the dishes may become its own reward.
Once such an association is made between a chore and sex, you can use the chore as a reinforcer. For example, if your husband fails to do the dishes and he discovers you doing them, this will be a punishment. By doing the dishes you are depriving him of something which gives him sexual pleasure.

I often find I have become sexually excited at the darnest times. I may be ironing her clothes, cleaning the bathrooms, preparing dinner, washing dishes -- you name it. And I realize I have an erection. I get excited every time I think about her. I get excited sometimes when I am doing the most mundane of chores for her. She may not even be at home and yet I have become excited just knowing I am serving her in some fashion.

Similarly, you can create an association between general submissive behavior and sex so that he becomes aroused by his own expressions of submission to you.

Unless your husband is a complete moron, he will figure out what you are up to sooner or later. But the training, of course, is very pleasant for your husband. If you are careful to match the pace of training to his receptivity, it is most likely that your husband will cooperate in his training. Simply back off when he objects. Press ahead when he is enthusiastic.

What is most intriguing about these training techniques is that they work even if your husband is entirely aware of what you are doing. The behavior modification techniques will affect him at a deep, subconscious level. You will fundamentally change the way he thinks about doing the chores.

Indeed, some husbands have likened it to creating an addiction. As the training progresses, the husband becomes addicted to the reward system such that, even though he understands, intellectually, why he craves to do the chores, and even though he is entirely aware that you have used sex to train him, still, he will feel a deep, irrefutable craving to do the chores for you. Doing the chores becomes an enjoyable experience for him.

You are, in effect, rewiring his brain to enjoy doing the chores for you. Your husband might initially be willing to make the personal sacrifice to do the chores for you. But as the training progresses, doing the chores will become less a personal sacrifice and more a self indulgence. A wise husband who has committed to serving you will therefore eagerly cooperate in the training.
 

Domestic Discipline

o most submissive males, Domestic Discipline is the holy grail of loving Femdom relationship. Living in a household where rules are clearly defined by a superior female authority (the dominant wife) is the core of the Femdom lifestyle and a source of inspiration for most Femdom couples.
In a loving Femdom relationship, domestic discipline stands for hierarchic order within a family using disciplinary acts and punitive measures to enforce the dominant wife’s authority over the submissive male husband. This lifestyle is very real, where couples are making a conscious decision to incorporate discipline and authority into their day to day life.
The boundaries are clearly laid and actions have consequences. Those boundaries are typically enforced by the dominant wife on a 24/7 basis. In some cases, a stern look is all it takes to put the submissive male husband back in line, but occasionally losing a privilege or exercising physical punishment is far more effective in making a point.
Domestic discipline is a recipe for true happiness to both parties. It enables a loving and nurturing relationship usually far greater than in most modern households, since there is no power struggle between the genders. The submissive husband simply accepts the dominant wife’s role as mentor, protector and disciplinarian. The wife has the last word, period. The husband is willing to accept absolute control over his life, financially, sexually and socially, because he understands that this disciplinary arrangement is driven by the love of his dominant wife and that she will only correct his ways for his own benefit.

He is still the same man that you have always loved

By far, the most common concern that we hear from women is that they do not want to trade in the husband that they love for a mindless domestic servant. This is a fair concern, but it is the manifestation of an essential misunderstanding of how this dynamic will impact their relationship.
While some men, and doubtless some women, fantasize about a relationship where the man is engaged in a constant, 24/7 effort of nipping at his wife's heels to please her, this is simply not a relationship that works for most people in the long-run. It is better to understand loving female authority as a dimension of the relationship that is always present, but not always out in the open. Day in and day out, the vast majority of the woman's interactions with her husband will be exactly as they are today. Husbands and wives share friendship, trust, affection and a spiritual love that is completely independent of who has the final authority in the household. None of this - absolutely none of this - changes when the wife acknowledges her husband's submission.
They will still laugh together, they will still play together, and they will still work together for common goals. If there are disagreements in the household, the woman's decision will certainly be final, but relationships do not revolve around conflict resolution. The husband will most likely take on a much greater percentage of the household chores, but neither do relationships revolve around domestic work. The woman can be as demanding as she chooses as often as she chooses. Just because the submissive husband has an innate desire to feel controlled by his wife, she does not have to reinforce that control every time she speaks to him. She can do so daily, weekly, or however often she feels that the husband's role in the relationship needs reinforcing to keep him fulfilled.
Of particular concern is that fact that many women do not want to feel dominant in the bedroom. When the make love they like to feel, either once in a while or virtually every time, that they are being taken by their strong, masculine mate. A woman that feels this way should feel open to communicating this with her husband so that her sexual needs are being satisfied in a way that suits her particular tastes and preferences. This woman, however, should understand that her husband craves this same sense of submission in the bedroom that she does. She should nurture his submission by dedicating periodic sexual activity that reinforces her authority and his submission. How often this takes place is something that each couple should work out together.

Sample Dialogues for Wives with Submissive Husbands

(Some of these seem pretty corny, but these little snippets have received tons of positive feedback! Feel free to send your own and we'll add them to the collection.)
Go get the lotion. I need you to rub my feet.
Run my bath for me. And while I'm in there get started on the laundry.
Get up, Sweetheart, and make me some coffee and an English muffin with butter.
You did a nice job cleaning the bathrooms; I am very pleased with you.
I want a full body massage for exactly one hour; keep an eye on the clock. When you are done I want you to go down on me until I tell you to stop. Afterwards, we'll both go to sleep. You won't be having an orgasm tonight.
I'm going out with the girls tonight. While I'm gone you can work on the laundry.
I want you writing down everything that you eat. I want to monitor your eating habits so that I can make some changes. Also, you'll be starting an exercise program this week.
I think I need to put you on a budget. At the beginning of every week, I'll give you an allowance. If an emergency comes up, please feel free to come to me and we can discuss giving you some extra money.